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Cathy Howlett's avatar

Thank you for making me feel like I didn’t miss out - I played with the idea of going to see Liz - it called me but I ignored the call. But you just so beautifully relayed the message. Fuck purpose - it’s been killing me with anxiety of late. When times feel heavy and dark, I kept feeling like I run around in circles trying to figure out why I am here? How am I meant to ‘be’ with these times? What should I do ? So this is just the best medicine for me to read your words today. 🙏❤️🙏. And hear Liz 🙏❤️.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Aw I'm so happy it helped. The purpose trap is real. And the best thing we can do in these crazy times (a wise mentor shared) is be loving and kind to those around us. It's the best antidote to heaviness and bleakness. That is in our power. Right now. Much love.

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Liminal Space's avatar

I’m sorry about your friend and thankful you had her in your life.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Thank you so much. She was incredibly special.

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Tracey Ammann's avatar

Hi Suzanne. Just read this again by chance. Literally minutes after I edited my bio and was about to add ‘and still don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life’.

‘Just loving the people around me’ seems more than enough for today.

Last week I told someone with self deprecation that if I had to sum up my life it would be with the words ‘I tried!’ But you know what? Sitting here just now, a more accurate statement will be ‘I cared!’

Thank you again for reminding me to just ‘let myself off the hook’.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

That is more than enough. Absolutely.

A wise friend of mine says to me: “what if you’re supposed to be ordinary, Suzanne, and you’re here on this earth to be kind to the cashier and the tram driver?” That’s enough.

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Tracey Ammann's avatar

More than enough I think. We’ve all been brainwashed to feel we need to be remarkable.

With relief I will be remarkably ordinary!!

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

I need that on a T-shirt ‘remarkably ordinary’. Love!

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Monica's avatar

Thanks for the summary. So helpful. I really wanted to go. Have a lovely day. 💖

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

You are so welcome. 😘

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Renee Fesser's avatar

My sincere condolences Suzanne. It is hard losing a good friend. Love your message and take away from Liz’s talk.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Thank you so much, Renee. Sending love.

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kimberly standiford's avatar

beautiful post—— I came to really love and appreciate Elizabeth Gilbert when she was a guest and in conversation with suleika jaouad my absolute favorite of all time. coincidentally, I just bought tickets to see suleika jaouad and her husband Jon Batiste in Philadelphia for the debut of her new book. An inspirational book called the book of alchemy a creative practice for an inspired life. and of course, Elizabeth is one of the contributors. since i live in miami , I still need to get my plane or train ticket to Philly, but meantime I couldn’t be more excited. I know the evening is going to be amazing.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Ooo brilliant. I will. 🙏

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Wow, amazing, Kimberly. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your experience and fav. I will get that book ordered. It sounds wonderful.

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kimberly standiford's avatar

if you are just hearing about suleika for the first time , check out her memoir Between Two Kingdoms, and watch the documentary “American Symphony”—- both extraordinary✨

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Amy's avatar

Thank you. I’m sending you love x x x

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Thank you, Amy. I truly appreciate that. x

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Colin Rohde's avatar

Thanks Suzanne. I needed to hear your message. I was sooooo tempted to go to see Liz. I’ve been following her for some time. Like you, I’m tired of purpose and I’m really just starting in this journey so really finding my feet. The biggest problem for me is that know very few people in similar journeys or with a similar mindset. Grew up in country Victoria. Not a lot of spiritual thinking there. 😂🙈

Now live in Uk though spending a lot of time back here.

Travelling this road on my own.

Always good to read messages of others who share my view. It helps.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Thank you being here and sharing, Colin. I relate. I’m ‘home’ in the north of the UK for a visit and it’s not my spiritual community. And that's okay. We can find each other here.

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Michael Oxenrider's avatar

I hear this

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Letting go on a daily basis. 👌

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Anita Smith's avatar

Beautiful words, Suzanne. Totally get it. I saw Liz in Melbourne too, was so lit by her, I flew to Adelaide to see her again and got a lovehug from the Love-Monk herself. Keep writing and look after yourself in this gift of grief ❣️🙏❣️

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

WOW!!! What did you say? I was thinking what I'd say in that moment (if I'd have VIPed it) and figured the divine would send me words!

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Andrew Lynch's avatar

to have purpose is a useful thing. to find your purpose is a trap. that's people selling you stuff. future thinking, in whatever way positive, is helpful, but it is fraught. purpose and passion are tricky in that way

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

That certainly are. I get caught in the damn comparison so often. As soon as I follow a trail of creativity, the monetise conversation pops into my head. GGGRRRR.

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Andrew Lynch's avatar

It’s very tempting. I’ve had to delete social media apps during the week and put them back on during the weekend. It’s not 100% effective, but it’s annoying enough to look at them on a phone browser that the friction factor works.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

I’ve had a social media-less phone for a while. It definitely helps because scrolling on Safari is gross. Still doesn't 100% stop me. And like you, weekends are tricky without it when I want to feel connected to people overseas.

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Andrew Lynch's avatar

It’s never going to be 100% effective, that’s why a multi prong defense is required, at least till the self-worth or whatever the deep down thing is, is strengthened so that the temptation to compare is more easily quelled. That’s how they get you.

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Barbara DeCoursey Roy's avatar

This speaks to me as I rebuild my life as a widow, taking baby steps toward on the path of unknowing. Thanks for taking time to be present to us.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

My love and heart is with you right now. That's the hardest of times. The path of 'unknowing' I believe is all we have, right?

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A Good Life - Joan Noel's avatar

Thank you for this re-introduction to Liz, and this beautiful summary. I will start that daily writing. Liz calls it creativity, and it is, and I have called it the little silver thread of intuition that guides my choices. I think it’s the same thing. I’ll find out as I start my love letters. What’s extraordinary is the impact of following the silver thread, in the tapestry of my life, is joy and fullness. And now that silver thread/intuition, is telling me to write myself love letters 🤗. Thank you.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

It makes me happy to hear that you're picking up the practice. Anything that can tune us into the quiet inner voice the world so easily drowns out...

Blessings and love to you.

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Alyssa Snow's avatar

Thank you thank you thank you. This hit deep.

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

You are so very welcome. It's such a relief isn't it?!

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Estela P's avatar

Thank you ✨

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

Pleasure, my dear. I hope it's useful. Take a break from trying to be. Just be.

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Em(ily) Chadbourne's avatar

A gorgeous summary of a wonderful evening. Sending all my love 🩷

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Suzanne Wright's avatar

It was special. No matter how tired. ;)

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